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Boifriend

My girlfriend thinks I’m sexy with my computerized beard, so this is for her! Lol! 💙🌈 -Des

Sexy. This is not a word I associated with myself for many years. Growing up I was a thin child, a chubby pre-teen, a thin teenager, a heavy 20-something year old, and since my 30’s my weight has been pretty consistent and what I like to call “kinda average” (currently size 14). But sexiness isn’tContinue reading “Sexy AF”

Label Me Bigender

Labels, labels, fucking labels. I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with labels. On one hand, labels helped me feel less alone as a lesbian woman. On the other hand, it also made me feel pigeonholed and typecast. Let’s see if I can explain this…… Growing up the majority of my friends resembled someone. I hadContinue reading “Label Me Bigender”

It Drives Me Wild

Today I am going to write from more of my masculine side and talk about all the things that women do (especially my girlfriend), that drive a bigender/boi/butch lesbian – such as myself – wild. There is this beautiful fusion that happens between masculine women and the feminine women who love them. Butch/femme dynamic IContinue reading “It Drives Me Wild”

Just One of the Guys

I owe so much to the guys I deemed as “pretty boys” growing up. While my friends were thumbing through issues of Seventeen Magazine and Cosmo, admiring the pretty women they’d see, I was thumping through celebrity and rock magazines admiring the guys I wanted to emulate. In some compacity I DID have crushes onContinue reading “Just One of the Guys”

What Being Bigender Means to Me!

I would like to discuss in further detail what being bigender means to ME. Basically, I identify as both man and woman energetically. Someone who rejects the binary of male and female. The cool thing about being bigender, for me anyway, is that I have two distinct gender identities simultaneously (others many vary between theContinue reading “What Being Bigender Means to Me!”

Coming Out as Bigender

I came out as Bi today……. BIGENDER that is! What is bigender? Dictionary – bi-gen·der denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity encompasses two genders. “she realized that she missed the feminine side of herself and gradually realized that she was bi-gender” someone who experiences multiple gender identities at once. possiblyContinue reading “Coming Out as Bigender”